“Learning From The Life Of Hungerbad”

Hello, Good morning. Trust you all are doing OK.Firstly, I would love to start by explaining why I brought this to the Culture Section of Nairaland. We were taught that culture is people’s way of life. This piece addresses our way of life, here on Nairaland, at least. I woke up to meet the sad news of the demise of this wonderful fellow, HungerBad. I didn’t have any direct dealings with him but I knew him for two things – his comments and his benevolence. May his soul rest in God’s perfect peace, may those he left behind find strength to carry on. Nairaland is a faceless forum. Each day we come online, we interact with monikers, sometimes we forget that behind these monikers are actual humans with real names, families and real lives. I’ve been here for a while. I’ve seen things. I’ve seen people play over someone’s depression, I’ve seen people mock others that need some sort of help or the other. I’ve seen people say terrible things about others. I’ve seen people wish others death. I’ve seen comments where users threaten to kill others. In the heat of the just concluded elections, I saw folks do things that I fear even animals may not do to themselves. I’ve seen people celebrate the deaths of others. This list is endless. But there’s more. I’ve seen good deeds go down here too. A couple of times, I’ve seen fundraising threads for one sick person or the other. I’ve seen sincere efforts by people to help other people with jobs, tuition, etc. The annual Xfire Scholarship comes to mind. HungerBad’s repeated show of kindness comes to mind too. HungerBad was a kind fellow. Regular users of this forum must have come across his good deeds at one point or the other. He was not discouraged by the activities of scammers that’s of course ubiquitous here. He looked beyond the lines of cultural divisions. He gave to all. Hausas. Igbos. Yorubas. To HungerBad, it didn’t matter whether you are Christian or Muslim. All that mattered to him was that you needed help. More like, a human needs help. This was enough for him. There are a few lessons we all can pick from this fellow. Our country is already in a terrible state. People are jobless, people are angry. Why heat it further with tribalism and extreme political views? The elite continue to take the common man for a ride. They play on the gullibility of the average Nigerian. They exploit the natural hatred each geopolitical region has for the other. Why then do we hurt ourselves the more? Why can’t we show unconditional love to each other just like our dear HungerBad did? We tend to be unaware that behind each moniker is a human that may be at the verge of taking his life. We make all sorts of derogatory comments not minding the possible impacts. We forget too that silence, that is, not commenting on each and every thread, is an option. Mr. A opens a thread about a certain problem he’s confronted with. Maybe a health challenge. The first commenter calls him unprintable names and makes jest of his condition. The second commenter follows suit and a cascade is set. Who would have known that HungerBad was in the US Army? You can’t be sure of the person behind a moniker you just wrongly attacked. He may be the doctor that stood for hours doing a procedure on your brother, he may be the driver that helped your stranded sister, she may be the lawyer that fought for the right of your daughter, or the good Samaritan that donated massively for the health of your father. In conclusion, I urge each and every one of us to follow peace with all men. We must treat each other with a sense of respect. We must be quick to help, if we can. If we can’t, we must move on, this is better than worsening the situation with an out-of-place comment. Lastly, life is temporary. Whether we continue to live or die can be decided in seconds. Let’s carry this consciousness at the back of our minds as we pursue our day-to-day activities.Thank you. cc: Ishilove, Lalasticlala.